There are nights when I wake up wondering if I will ever find someone to love. Like many, I did not have the fortune to find someone to love...
There are nights when I wake up wondering if I will ever find someone to love. Like many, I did not have the fortune to find someone to love me or to whom to give love, but I do not lose faith.
I know that to young people, people over 50 seem ridiculous for hoping to find a good match. That is a mistake because as long as we have life, we all have the opportunity to love for the first or fifth time. Yes, love can come at any age. Love is not an emotion that only young people are worthy of.
The most beautiful thing about mature love is that when it comes it has the advantage of experience. It is not that young people are not able to enjoy love in a pure way, it is not like that. What I am trying to say is that experience is always a support to avoid making mistakes due to inexperience.
Many of the mistakes that are made when loving someone in youth happen out of ignorance. A mature woman or man will know their limits and will be respected; In addition, you will know of prudence, and it is very possible that you do not feel emotional dependence. On the contrary, in youth for fear of losing someone we love, it is possible to give in to impossible things. Of course, it doesn't happen in all relationships; Whether a relationship is abusive or healthy and beautiful depends on the people, it is not a generality.
Finding love in maturity is not banality
Loving in old age is not synonymous with old love, but this is what many young people think. They mistakenly believe that lacking the strength of youth, adults who find love only seek companionship out of necessity. Not so, for many older people finding love can be unexpected; however, it is no less beautiful and does not come hand in hand with a need for companionship.
Mature love is not banal; indeed, I would dare to say that it is more serious than the love of youth. I think it is to decide between how stable (family and friends), and how unpredictable it can be to love someone and not average the consequences.
An interesting aspect is that mature people do not care much what their relatives say about this new opportunity in love. The situation is that many believe that it is a whim at the moment; as if they were children who crave a sweet and then abandon it when they get bored, but they are not.
When mature people find love, they take advantage of it and enjoy it. They do not suffer because of what others think because they know that it is an opportunity they cannot lose.
Love throughout life
Fortunate are those who grow old together and their love prevails through the years.
Fortunately, this type of relationship also exists. These loves belong to people who do not give up at the first stumble. Those who reach their 60 years or more together are people who learned to forgive and repair damages; They are loves worthy of admiration.
The most impressive thing about these loves is that despite the time they do not lose passion, understanding or rapport. These loves remain renewed and strong; so much that any young couple would envy them.
There is nothing that fills me with tenderness more than seeing an older couple walk hand in hand. For me, that is perhaps the materialization of real love, which is well worth it.
In maturity, we all know what we want
If there is something wonderful about maturing, it is that "blows" teach us to know what we want. Maturity also helps us make decisions and measure the consequences of our actions.
It is true that love is a risk at any age, it is always worth experiencing. However, one point in favour of people who find love in maturity is that they are not carried away by first impressions or momentary attraction.
With age, we all learn to discern what we want. With this in mind, there are few opportunities to be deceived; We may be wrong, but the mistake can be corrected before the damage is serious.
When love arrives at maturity it fills those who feel it, not with a passion that demands to be attended, but with the satisfaction of knowing that it is reciprocated and valued. Perhaps the latter is what is most valuable because as we know, fire sometimes burns so much that it wears out. On the contrary, the calm and peace that come with mature love give security and certainty that every young couple wants.
It's not that I downplay the physical aspect of love, but over time it loses relevance and gives way to something more sublime: the emotional and mental connection that arises from rapport, and not from the carnal nature of the relationship. A couple can be understood very well in intimacy, but be a disaster to respect and understand each other.
It may be that love in the fall of life is not as energetic, vital and passionate as in youth, but it offers something that it does not: truthfulness and harmony.