I don't know the first person who doesn't like others to like me. For some, it is easier than for others, but the reason why "w...
I don't know the first person who doesn't like others to like me. For some, it is easier than for others, but the reason why "we don't like each other" the first time is that it goes unnoticed.
It is normal that not everyone likes us. As the old and well-known saying goes: "We are not a gold coin to be liked by everyone"; so the matter is something we must learn to deal with.
Nor is it about being handsome to please; there are people who are not physically unpleasant, and even then it is not pleasant to chat with them. With this settled, it is clear that the problem is not physical, but the first impression we make; and this implies our way of being.
Nerves can play you a hard time
People who are shy suffer more from this. I remember starting a new school year at a new school was harrowing; to arrive and for the teachers to say: «We have a new colleague, please introduce yourself ...». This was a worse event for me than getting an injection. It was a matter of getting up from the chair to shake and sweat, at the end I didn't even know what I was saying. Of course, that was something that only happened to me for the first few days, after that there were no problems. However, that first impression is very important if it is about making friends or liking that special person.
Mistakes that ruin the first impression you make
We may be experts in speaking and handling ourselves in public; however, it is worth taking into account the small mistakes that we all make without realizing it in an effort to be liked. I hope they serve you and you can avoid them
A handshake when a friend introduces you to someone says a lot about you.
Imagine that you finally meet that man from work that you have liked for months. Someone introduces it to you because they know it attracts you; When at the end he extends his hand to greet you, it turns out that his grip is loose, as if without strength. What feeling do you have? The truth, what this type of squeeze transmits is that the person has a weak character, or that they do not feel any type of interest. The opposite happens when the handshake is firm; The message that is sent to the other is that you are sure of yourself and you really like to meet him.
Also take care that when they hold out their hand, not grab the other people with both hands. This gesture indicates that the person may be very dominant.
Strive to be memorable
It may happen that you want someone in particular to like you; There is nothing wrong in it. The problem arises when you forcefully want to make a good impression. To achieve this, you go overboard with your personal grooming, so much so that it becomes evident. A lot of makeup and jewellery or suggestive clothing will expose you and give a wrong image of you.
Now, you may be well-groomed, without exaggeration, but if during the talk you brag about your achievements or laugh uproariously, so much that those around you turn to look at you; you are not on the right track.
The best thing is that you are natural, if he likes you as you are, great; Whoever is worth it will appreciate you as you are and will not change anything about you.
Flaunt your connections
If you want to kill the good opinion that people have of you, just show off your connections. Nothing is more terrible than someone constantly talking about their acquaintances and how much weight they have in a certain company or in their circle of acquaintances.
When a person makes this mistake, he gives the impression that he needs others to be successful.
Talk a lot about you
Monopolizing a talk by talking only about you, is a mistake made my nerves. It is natural to want to please, but not in that way. To prevent this from happening, try to bring some prepared questions and talk about topics that appeal to both of you. Remember that it is a friendly chat that can generate a good friendship, good contact or love.
To speak badly about someone
This is terrible and uncomfortable for the listener. When this happens, the person who listens to you will perceive from you that you do that with all the people you meet when you already enter into the trust. In other words, you are someone to distrust, rude and gossipy.
Suppose they share your opinion
This can be a point of enmity between new acquaintances. No one is obliged to have the same opinions on religious, political, nutritional issues, among others.
It is a matter of respect, of keeping things clear and in place. It is also a matter of not feeling offended by the opposite opinion, of setting limits, keeping silence or knowing how to speak without losing control.
Finally, I can only say that it is not bad to make someone feel bad, that is something that cannot be controlled. What should matter most to you is being a genuine, kind and honest person; really, whoever wants to be part of your friends will love you as you are.